treat them with kindness...

how about i name my knife kindness???!!!

i don't have many regrets in my life, but one came to a blink of an eye this morning.  i've been away from home a little over ten years, and if you ask me, that is indeed a mighty long time.  people grow apart, people change and friendship fall outs happen.  understandable, right?  however, there is a difference when people live in the past with regards to what they know about you.  it made me wonder if people's ignorance and arrogance were partly a fault of mine. regardless of where you're from, there's always a social expectation of how people want you to be and if you are lucky and wise enough, you would have your own as well.  

if you are anything like me, you would've spent a majority of your lifetime building an image, one that everyone would remember.  not because you wanted them to, only because you've worked so hard being tough on your own - people don't even know how to see you anything else other than who you used to be.  over the course of time, i have made many friends, some became significant relationships.  however, the difference between the friends and significant relationships is that some people have seen me grow, accepted the change in perspective and life choices i have chosen.  the others chose to sit back and admire my old self without knowing it no longer existed.  

i was always taught never judge a book by its cover, but to be honest, i haven't quite lived up to that most of the time.  i have to say though, even though i have my judgments, i save them until i try to get to know somebody and if those judgments stay, i walk away.  i'm sure many of you have heard don't let anything come between friendships.  that is true, especially people or things.  however, if you really look at it with a fine tooth comb, it's the arrogance and ignorance that ruin friendships and relationships - not the people or material things around it.  remember, attitude is everything.