October 14, 2012

when facebook becomes failbook ...

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if you and i are friends on facebook or if we talk often enough through a different avenue, you already know that for a while now, i have been on and off of facebook.  many of the people on my friend list are people i know in real life.  i belong to certain sports groups on facebook and i may have only added 10 people, and a few bloggers.  so really, under 20 people that i haven't met in person.  the funny thing is that, these people don' t give me problems and act more like my friends than those in real life.

an incident happened a few months ago when one of my good male friends caught his girlfriend cheating.  the problem was, many of our mutual friends have caught her slipping through facebook's newsfeed.  yea.  remember that thing?  if you aren't careful, what you write on people's wall and such, can be seen my all of us.  exactly. you got that right trick! it has caused so much stress, drama and harassment that she was reported to facebook and her page was asked to be taken down.  of course, i was left with creating a new account.  when i started facebook i had 400+ friends, i cleaned it out and had 300, 228 and now with the new account at 108.  when shit hits the fan, you also discover which people will believe anything they hear without confirming things with you.  

long story short, facebook should be a fun experience networking and catching up with people.  it shouldn't be a place where drama should be brought upon and act like jerry springer if you're caught between a web of lies.





6 comments:

  1. i also have a love/hate relationship with facebook. i love that i can stay connected with friends and family who love abroad yet i hate it because there's just too much goddamn information splashed on every single page!! i'm not one for clutter (despite my closet) and i hate that people detail everything about their lives on their status. facebook should adapt to twitter's 140char maximum!

    and i've also been cleaning house too... then i get messages "why did you delete me off facebook?" and they're actually offended.

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  2. Me and facebook have a love/hate relationship also. I've come to the conclusion several times that I should just delete it, but my blog's fan page is connected to it. Ugh! Then one night I took the time to delete 100+ people from my page only to find that my friend count was back to the same number in 3 days. I don't know what kind of glitch added all those folks back smh.

    Now I log on sometimes to check up on distant relatives & log back off. I don't update as often and I never share pics anymore. I just really need to take the time to clean up my friends list again.

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  3. Totally agree. Facebook is a bunch of drama. I was originally there to keep in touch with long lost friends or those that have moved away. But now I find myself getting irritated with a lot of what people post. So instead of un-friending them--because I know that something as simple as THAT would cause drama--I use that "hide" feature. Thank goodness for that.

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  4. I get asked by co-workers whether I'm on FB so I can join our work's FB page ... etc. All that said to me was, "Hell no - I could be setting myself up for the drama-rama." I know there are positive aspects to Facebook, but for me, the risks outweigh the benefits.

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  5. I've nominated you for a blog award: http://chymereanais.blogspot.com/2012/11/the-leibster-award.html

    ~Chymere Anais

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