i can't remember which blog post it was, but the beautiful caitlin and i share an understanding that not because we have a blog, every people in our social circle or family knows about it. my post aren't being shared on facebook (i no longer have it, but i never had a direct link of my blog on there) or twitter.
"Gossip is a sort of smoke that comes from the dirty tobacco-pipes of those who diffuse it: it proves nothing but the bad taste of the smoker." - George Eliot
publicly private is a hard concept to grasp especially that blogging is for sharing. i think it's more for when things you share end up being repeated by the wrong people. that is all. everyone can say "don't worry about it" etc, etc, i get it. but sometimes, the damage has already been done.